Let’s get growing!

botany bay kim graham


“Be happy about your growth, in which of course you can’t take anyone with you, and be gentle with those who stay behind; be confident and calm in front of them and don’t torment them with your doubts and don’t frighten them with your faith or joy, which they wouldn’t be able to comprehend. Seek out some simple and true feeling of what you have in common with them, which doesn’t necessarily have to alter when you yourself change again and again;” ― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet.


Deep inside our minds, we all aspire to grow but let me ask you a difficult question: When was the last time you challenged yourself to learn a new skill or research a new subject? I believe that our current comfort is actually the greatest barrier to our future growth. Growing people are comfortable with being uncomfortable.

I’m going to start a little project this week that honestly has me terrified. In the words of the hopeful contestants on  The Bachelor, I am going to “really put myself out there.” Who knows, I might fail miserably BUT even if I do, I believe I’m going to grow greatly in the process!

If you’re ready to start growing, set some time aside to identify the area of your life where the coziness is killing you and begin to walk humbly in a new direction, no matter how uncomfortable it is. It’s the pursuit, not the result, that will determine your growth. After you’ve decided what task, skill, or subject you’re going to grow in; go ahead and tell a few trustworthy people exactly what you plan to do so they can encourage you along the way and maybe even help you get there quickly!

Let’s step out together and get growing!

– R+

Photo: Botany Bay – Edisto, SC by Kim Graham


The story of the good king

“Once upon a time there was a good and kind king who had a great kingdom with many cities. In one distant city, some people took advantage of the freedom the king gave them and started doing evil. They profited by their evil and began to fear the king would interfere and throw them in jail. Eventually, these rebels seethed with hatred for the king. They convinced the city that everyone would be better off without the king, and the city declared its independence from the kingdom.

But soon, with everyone doing whatever they wanted, disorder reigned in the city. There was violence, hatred, lying, oppression, murder, rape, slavery and fear. The king thought: What should I do? If I take my army and conquer the city by force, the people will fight against me, and I’ll have to kill so many of them, and the rest will only submit through fear or intimidation, which will make them hate me and all I stand for even more. How does that help them – to be either dead or imprisoned or secretly seething with rage? But if I leave them alone, they’ll destroy each other, and it breaks my heart to think of the pain they’re causing and experiencing.

So the king did something very surprising. He took off his robes and dressed in the rags of a homeless wanderer. Incognito, he entered the city and began living in a vacant lot near a garbage dump. He took up a trade – fixing broken pottery and furniture. Whenever people came to him, his kindness and goodness and fairness and respect were so striking that they would linger just to be in his presence. They would tell him their fears and questions, and ask his advice. He told them that the rebels had fooled them and that the true king had a better way to live, which he exemplified and taught. One by one, then two by two and then by hundreds, people began to have confidence in him and live in his way.

Their influence spread to others, and the movement grew and grew until the whole city regretted its rebellion and wanted to return to the kingdom again. But, ashamed of their horrible mistake, they were afraid to approach the king, believing he would certainly destroy them for their rebellion. But the king-in-disguise told them the good news: he was himself the king, and he loved them. He held nothing against them, and he welcomed them back into his kingdom, having accomplished by a gentle, subtle presence what never could have been accomplished through brute force.”

A story of the incarnation told during the 4th century by Athanasius, an Eastern Orthodox theologian, slightly adapted and expanded by Brian McLaren in his book, A Generous Orthodoxy.